It’s something I hear a lot. I don’t know why I’m here, I’ve never been to a counsellor before. How does counselling work? Is there something wrong with me?
I like to describe counselling a bit like this. You are in a deep dark forest, you might be feeling afraid, confused, and wondering how you are going to find your way out. The counsellor is the person who come in with the torch who shines a light into the darkness and you walk out of the forest together.
It’s normal to feel a little nervous about meeting with a counsellor for the first time, after all you are about to share your deepest thoughts and feelings to a complete stranger. A lot of people think you come to a counsellor for advice, to be honest I do more listening than speaking in a session. A good counsellor holds a space for you to express what if on your mind and reflect on things to give meaning and clarity on what you might be going through.
Of course counselling is different for everyone, you feel a bit unsettled after your first session, it doesn't mean you should give up on the idea. It might take more than one session before you feel comfortable enough to open up about everything that’s going on with you, or you might feel a bit better even after your first visit.
Finding a counsellor that is right for you is a bit like making a new friend, it won’t be with just anyone, but someone you trust and like. If you feel like you’re not connecting with the first counsellor you meet, keep trying new ones until you find one you like. You’ll know when it happens.
As for how many sessions should I see you? It might take a few sessions before you start to see the benefits, so try to stick with it. If you feel your'e not making progress speak to your counsellor about it.
If you would like to know more why not take advantage of a free 15 minute consultation on the phone about whether counselling is right for you? Or if you would like to make an appointment, contact me on 0423 382 447.