Working with complex clients can quietly invite an understandable fantasy: If I get the formulation right, if I find the right modality, if I stay steady enough… I can carry them through. It often comes from care, not ego. Many of us entered this work because we genuinely can’t bear unnecessary suffering. But here’s the tension: the more responsibility we take for a client’s progress, the more accountable we become when progress stalls, reverses, or fractures. If we’re not ca

A new approach to managing difficult emotions through radical open dialectical behaviour therapy

What is pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

Trauma can leave a lasting imprint—not only in our memories but in our bodies, behaviours, and relationships. While talking therapies can...

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects attention, executive function, emotional regulation, and impulse control. In women,...

Emotions can be intense, unpredictable, and overwhelming—especially for neurodivergent people.

In little over two month's time, possession and use of small amounts of the most commonly used illicit drugs will be decriminalised in...

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Like any type of addictive behaviour, be it using alcohol, drugs use or gambling, the habitual use of pornography can cause significant...

It is also a great way of focusing on your thoughts and feelings and developing Sometimes putting pen to paper can make us aware of what...

Welcome to 2022, if you’re like me I’ve started the new year full of plans and good intentions, go to the gym, get fit, lose some weight,...

As a couples/relationship therapist, intimacy is a word I hear a lot, So what does intimacy actually mean and what if anything does it...

You are worried your partner is cheating on you. You notice that they are spending less time with you when they used to read and respond...

As a couples therapist I always find at one time or another the topic of sex comes up with my clients. Sex gets attention because it’s...

Relationship counselling, marriage counselling, couples counselling, call it what you will it all comes down to this, my partner and I...

It’s something I hear a lot. I don’t know why I’m here, I’ve never been to a counsellor before. How does counselling work? Is there...